What to do When Your Partner Doesn’t Understand Your Anxiety

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Anxiety can impact most intimate relationships. This is especially true when our partner doesn’t understand it. And when this happens, it can make us more to be anxious about, it can increase conflict, which can leave us feeling isolated and alone. In this article, I offer some things to think about when trying to get your partner to understand your … Read More

Lean Into Anxiety

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Logically, trying to escape or avoid anxiety makes a lot of sense. It’s uncomfortable, it causes us to do things that aren’t in line with who I want to be, so let’s try to avoid it. In practice, however, this makes things worse. Anxiety’s drug of choice The drug of choice for anxiety is avoidance because it gives us certainty … Read More

Supporting Someone Dealing with Anxiety

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Anxiety rarely just impacts the person experiencing it; it has a way of spilling out into the environment, easily impacting anyone nearby. Here are some ways to help support someone dealing with anxious thoughts and behaviors: Avoid Trying to Fix it The most important thing to remember is that it’s impossible to fix someone’s anxiety. Two common ways we try … Read More

How Often Should You See a Therapist for Anxiety?

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Therapy is one of the best ways to confront anxiety. But, if you’ve never been to therapy, there are likely many questions. One of the most common questions asked is, “How often should you expect to see your therapist?” Typically, it’s best to see your therapist 1 time per week. If your anxiety is at a higher level, your therapist … Read More