Does Anxiety Go Away on its Own?

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Asking if anxiety will go away on it’s own is like asking your doctor to predict how long you’ll live. There are an infinite number of variables to consider; it’s impossible to know. Anxiety is also dependent on a number of different, complex variables. And just like our lifespan, some variables we have control over, while others are completely up … Read More

Why am I Always Overthinking The Past? And How to Stop.

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety, Sadness & Depression

Our ability to remember the past is important. We don’t want to lose it. Without it we’d lose our capacity to learn and we’d find ourselves constantly making the same mistakes. The past can bring up intense emotions like guilt and regret. These emotions can act like a compass, telling us when we’ve veered too far from our values. However, … Read More

What to do When Your Partner Doesn’t Understand Your Anxiety

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Anxiety can impact most intimate relationships. This is especially true when our partner doesn’t understand it. And when this happens, it can make us more to be anxious about, it can increase conflict, which can leave us feeling isolated and alone. In this article, I offer some things to think about when trying to get your partner to understand your … Read More

Lean Into Anxiety

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Logically, trying to escape or avoid anxiety makes a lot of sense. It’s uncomfortable, it causes us to do things that aren’t in line with who I want to be, so let’s try to avoid it. In practice, however, this makes things worse. Anxiety’s drug of choice The drug of choice for anxiety is avoidance because it gives us certainty … Read More

Supporting Someone Dealing with Anxiety

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Anxiety rarely just impacts the person experiencing it; it has a way of spilling out into the environment, easily impacting anyone nearby. Here are some ways to help support someone dealing with anxious thoughts and behaviors: Avoid Trying to Fix it The most important thing to remember is that it’s impossible to fix someone’s anxiety. Two common ways we try … Read More

Japanese Parenting Style – And Differences from the West

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTJapan

Expats and foreigners visiting Japan are often surprised by how Japanese kids act; Westerners commonly report things like, less fuss, more mature behavior and greater self-sufficiency, than the kids in their home countries.  And, for the number of foreigners making these kinds of observations, there are usually just as many theories as to why Japanese kids are the way they … Read More

My Husband Got a Job Overseas (Impacts of Staying or Going)

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTTransitions

Finding out your husband just got a job overseas can bring a flood of mixed emotions: Anger Sadness Jealousy Fear Isolation Excitement It can also bring with it an overwhelming number of decisions and things to consider: Will I go with him? Do I want and could we survive a long-distance relationship? What will I do for work? Am I … Read More

How Can I Be Happy in a New Country?

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTCulture Shock, Homesickness

We all move to a new country for a variety of reasons. Some reasons are clear and tangible (e.g., for work), other reasons are not so clear and less defined (e.g., “a change of pace”). Regardless of your reason for moving, it’s normal to feel off-balance after relocating to a new country. It can be helpful to first understand why … Read More

How Long Does Homesickness Last (and How to Shorten its Duration)

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTHomesickness

The experience of homesickness has common features for all of us. At the same time, each of us can experience homesickness in a number of different ways, including its duration. For some, homesickness can pass fairly quickly, while for others it can take much longer. How long does homesickness last, in general? Studies have shown homesickness to last between 3 … Read More

How Often Should You See a Therapist for Anxiety?

Brian O'Sullivan, M.S., LMFTAnxiety

Therapy is one of the best ways to confront anxiety. But, if you’ve never been to therapy, there are likely many questions. One of the most common questions asked is, “How often should you expect to see your therapist?” Typically, it’s best to see your therapist 1 time per week. If your anxiety is at a higher level, your therapist … Read More